Scriptures:
Mark 11:25 New King James Version
“And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.
Colossians 3:12-13 New King James Version
Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.
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Couples Devotion – September 26
September 26
What does it take to know the power of grace? First it takes humility. If you have trouble forgiving someone, it is at least partly because deep in your heart you are thinking, “I would never do anything like that!” As long as you feel superior to someone, feel like you are a much better kind of person, you will find it very hard if not impossible to forgive. [so] truth will eat up love. (Hardcover, p. 165; paperback, p. 184)
FORGIVING. How do you forgive someone? First, forgive your spouse in your heart even before you talk to them (Mark 11:25). That way you avoid what we have discussed-using the truth to pay back rather than to lovingly correct. Second, go and say what was done wrong, but be open to the possibility that you aren’t seeing things clearly. Say something like: “It looks to me like you did this and it affected me like this. Correct me if I’m wrong.” Attack the problem, not the person. If your spouse apologizes, express forgiveness; if not, keep talking. Finally, remember that forgiveness is granted before it’s felt. Forgiveness is a promise not to keep bringing up the past to your spouse, to others, or to yourself.
Reflection: When was the last time you confronted and offered forgiveness to your spouse? Look at the list above and evaluate how well you did this.
Thought for prayer: Meditate on Colossians 3:12-13. Confess
your lack of “compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and fig heart. patience” in light of how “the Lord forgave you.” Ask for a forgiving heart
Reference: The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller.