Scriptures
Proverbs 27:14 NKJV – He who blesses his friend with a loud voice, rising early in the morning, It will be counted a curse to him.
Proverbs 27:15 NKJV – A continual dripping on a very rainy dayAnd a contentious woman are alike;
Proverbs 25:28 NKJV Whoever has no rule over his own spirit Is like a city broken down, without walls.
Proverbs 25:28 Amplified Bible (AMP)Like a city that is broken down and without walls [leaving it unprotected] Is a man who has no self-control over his spirit [and sets himself up for trouble].
Couples Devotion September 14
September 14
receiver A radio signal may be sent out on one frequency, but the radio very is tuned to another. So a husband may be sensual and romantic toward his wife, but that might not be where her love receiver is tuned. He doesn’t listen sympathetically to her when she wants to talk about the things that discourage her. She tells her husband, “I don’t feel you love me!” He retorts, “But I do love you!” Why…? He is sending his love over a channel to which she is not tuned. (Hardcover, p. 153; paperback, p. 169)
LOVE LANGUAGES ONE: We have seen that the love and affirmation of your spouse can be healing and transformative. But how do you communicate love to your spouse? Let’s introduce the concept of “love channels” or “love languages.” The idea is that you think you are conveying love and affirmation to your spouse, but you may be doing so in away that can’t be heard, because it is not emotionally valuable to him or her. The metaphor of a radio is helpful. You may be sending love on one channel but your partner doesn’t listen to that channel. Learning our spouse’s love languages is crucial. It requires coming to understand much about his or her temperament, history, and identity.
Reflection: Before doing any more reading or study, answer this very general question: In what ways can you express love in a way that pleases your spouse the most?
Thoughts for prayer: Meditate on proverbs 27:14, that tells us our effort to bless if poorly expressed can be countered as a curse, ask God for wisdom not just good intentions for how to love your spouse skillfully.
Reference: The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller.
Seeking to speak and do your spouse love language is like sowing a seed – Contetious and lack of control destroys the seed and gives no room for growth.
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