Scriptures
Romans 12:3
“For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith”
Couples Devotion September 19
September 19
Remember that improper love languages can be “heard in reverse.” For example, if you give material gifts to a person who wants some other form, she may say, “You are trying to buy my love!” (Hardcover, p. 155; paperback, p. 172)
CHANGING, SHARING, PRAYING, AND SPACE. Finally, consider these love languages. Some say “love me…”
(9) by volunteering to change your habits, attitudes, and other things that bother me, by being open to my criticism;
(10) by spending time with me doing and sharing activities that I like, by sharing each other’s worlds and growing together intellectually and emotionally;
(11) by praying and reading the Bible and talking about our spiritual lives together;
(12) by giving me freedom or privacy to pursue my interests, by not being too smothering and possessive.
Reflection: Which of these four love languages are the most emotionally valuable to you? Before asking-which do is the most valuable to your spouse? Now compare your answers. you think
Thought for prayer: Ask God for the wisdom to know the differences and balances-between being too smothering or too detached, between being only affirming or only critical, between only listening or only talking. Ask for the ability to love skillfully and well.
Reference: The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller.